Friday, January 23, 2009

I heart you.


Yesterday, my friend Cindy, sent me that awesome video I posted by Kelly Corrigan. Afterwards, we emailed back and forth for a short while about it, and she asked me if I had a large circle of friends like that in my life--a group of friends that know each other's darkest secrets, share both the ordinary and extraordinary moments that make up a lifetime, grow up and grow old together. My initial reaction was no; certainly I have friends, but I don't have children, so I am not involved in the community in a way that someone my age with kids would be. I also tend to be somewhat of a loner by nature, so the circle of people I trust and confide in is fairly tightknit. But then last night on my drive home from dinner with Ronni, I started giving the question Cindy posed some more thought, and what I realized is that I do have a circle of friends like that in my life. Only I know what some of them look like, while others, I don't.

You see, what dawned on me in my orange Jeep Wrangler, at approximately 9:40pm, on Rt 100 in Katonah, was that some of those friends in my circle are you--my readers.

When I wrote I'm Back this past October, one of you posted this in the comments box...
"I really enjoy your blogs, you are an excellent writer and very inspiring. This entry in particular really made me think about my life which is a good thing (I think). Thanks for your entries and I am glad things are heading in a positive direction for you."

When I posted 2009, I received this comment...
"I have to say this blog entry was so inspiring. I love reading your blog, and since I am going thru a difficult time right now and feel so strongly about living and enjoying life and being "selfish", this entry came at such a perfect time. Its so nice to read someones thoughts that are similar to my own. Thank you so much for all your inspiration!"

And when my grandmother passed away last year, this letter was waiting for me...
"Suzanne, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My grandmother helped raise me and her passing was terrible for me. I hope that your parents and brothers are a comfort to you at this time. I am sure you are to them."

Perhaps in this strange, new, virtual world, friendships and bonds are different than they were for our parents generation. Perhaps we can be personal without knowing the person, can offer help and comfort without Tupperware or Pyrex being involved, can grow up and old together without ever seeing each others wrinkles or gray roots. It's inspiring to me to know that goodness still exists in this world, that someone will reach out--with no agenda, or self-interest at play--to give someone they never met, a virtual pat on the back.

If that's not friendship, then I don't know what is.




My friend BethAnne--who I have known since elementary school!--sent this to me this morning. I love it. Enjoy.

I Believe...
That just because two people argue,
doesn't mean they don't love each other.
And just because they don't argue,
doesn't mean they do love each other.

I Believe...
That we don't have to change friends if we understand that friends change.

I Believe...
That no matter how good a friend is, they're going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that.

I Believe...
That true friendship continues to grow, even over the longest distance.
Same goes for true love.

I Believe...
That you can do something in an instant that will give you heartache for life.

I Believe...
That it's taking me a long time to become the person I want to be.

I Believe...
That you should always leave loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you see them.

I Believe...
That you can keep going long after you think you can't.

I Believe...
That we are responsible for what we do, no matter how we feel.

I Believe....
That either you control your attitude or it controls you.

I Believe...
That heroes are the people who do what has to be done when it needs to be done, regardless of the consequences.

I Believe...
That money is a lousy way of keeping score.

I Believe...
That my best friend and I can do anything, or nothing, and have the best time.

I Believe...
That sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you're down, will be the ones to help you get back up.

I Believe...
That sometimes when I'm angry I have the right to be angry, but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I Believe...
That maturity has more to do with what types of experiences you've had, and what you've learned from them.....and less to do with how many birthdays you've celebrated.

I Believe...
That it isn't always enough to be forgiven by others. Sometimes, you have to learn to forgive yourself.

I Believe...
That no matter how bad your heart is broken the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I Believe...
That our background and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become.

I Believe...
That you shouldn't be so eager to find out a secret.
It could change your life forever.

I Believe...
Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something totally different.

I Believe...
That your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don't even know you.

I Believe...
That even when you think you have no more to give, if a friend cries out to you.. you will find the strength to help.

I Believe...
That credentials on the wall do not make you a decent human being.

I Believe...
That the people you care about most in life are taken from you too soon.

I Believe....
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything;
They just make the most of everything.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much! I was so thrilled to see one of my responses to a past entry included. I agree that in todays society there are so many opportunities for friendships beyond person to person contact. I feel like I am your friend just from reading your blog and I will say again that I find you very inspiring. You have been a huge help to me in working some things out in my personal life. Thanks for being a good friend to all your readers.

SUZANNE BROWN said...

So sweet! Thank you for reading my blatherings; I'm relieved to know that sometimes they actually make some sense!

Love,
S

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Josh said...

"I believe" is good stuff and so is the rest of your Blog. I'm glad I stumbled on to it.

SUZANNE BROWN said...

Josh.

Good morning + thanks! I just re-read "I believe" + nodded sagely in agreement with you. 'Tis good stuff indeed + a nice way to start this Tuesday.

Over and out,
S